"My father was not an evil man. He was NOT EVIL. He was mentally ill. He was sick."

Through sharing her personal story of her family's struggle with her father's mental illness, my friend Jill has articulated some of what I've been thinking in response to the recent tragedy in Connecticut. In case you can't access Jill's facebook post, here are her words:

When I was 8 years old my father was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. Some of my childhood memories include the CIA showing up at our house to discuss a death threat letter he'd written to the President of the United States... watching a news broadcast of a mass shooting and seeing a composite sketch flash onto the screen that looked like my father (thankfully, it was not)... seeing him parked outside my elementary school every single day watching me and the building and who knew what else... hearing him threaten my mother... accusing her of impossible, terrible things... knowing he had a gun... hiding for my life...

But most of all I remember the pain and anguish my mother went through just trying to get him help. Due to laws that are made to protect patients, my mother was never able to get my father the help he desperately needed. He lived and died on the streets thinking the mafia, the government, and everyone was after him. He died alone and afraid. I am so grateful that he never hurt anyone else... that he never shot up a school full of children because the voices told him that to do so would be saving the world. I remember him telling me he was God.

My father was not an evil man. He was NOT EVIL. He was mentally ill. He was sick. Before his illness manifested he was a gentle man. He was an artist. He was really kind and generous and sweet. He loved to play the organ and sing off key. He loved to do crafts with me. He worked hard. He took care of his family. And then his mental illness manifested and he changed so quickly and so drastically. From the time I was 8 years old until his death in 2008 I lived a life of looking over my shoulder, being careful to keep my whereabouts secret... I didn't even use my real name on the internet until he was dead.

When I hear people talk about the people who commit these crimes as evil and "of the devil" it breaks my heart all over again. No one believed my mother when she would explain our situation. No one believed that my father was capable of doing what he was doing to us. And it is clear to me that most people still really do not understand mental illness... especially paranoid schizophrenia. What IS evil is a world where mental health issues are not taken seriously until someone does something so terrible like shooting up a school, a mall, a government building. There is no hope out there for people with severe mental illness. And there is no compassion for them either.

So while I am praying so hard for those children who were killed and their families who have been left to pick up the pieces... and while we are arguing over gun control and improved security.... my heart is also breaking for the folks that people label as evil... for the mentally ill who can get no help... and for their families who live in fear and pain and KNOW that something like this can and might happen but can do NOTHING about it. 

OpenSF Conference

The OpenSF conference was inspiring! Now there are some exciting new groups I'd like to form: a support group about sex for people with disabilities and an expressive arts play group. And writing ideas: pleasure is good for you, sex as a wellness tool, and can open relationships destroy capitalism? I'll be writing about all that and more as soon as I've had a chance to let it all sink in!

Learn more about the conference at http://www.open-sf.org/.

Walk for Health, May 18th

Walk for Health

Show your Pride for Mental Health Awareness Month!

Take a Walk for Health! Join us for a 1.5 mile Walk for Health at beautiful Lake Merritt.

Join the Parade!  Meet at the Lake Merritt Bandstand at 9:30 am to register!

Open to all ages! Free! Register Today!

• Free Farmers Market when you walk or join in a class!
•  Express pride and support for mental health consumers and their family members!
•  Health resource tables, games, give-a-ways and lots of fun!
•  Zumba for Disabilities, Tai Chi, Line Dancing, Chair Yoga!

Second Lake walk starts at 1:00 pm (3.5 miles)

Transportation
Exit Lake Merritt BART Station or have a friend drop you off at 1221 Oak street
and meet them at the Wellness Village. Come with your Wellness Center or Support
Services Team.

Partial Sponsored:
The Walk for Health is brought to you by Alameda County’s 10 x 10 Wellness

Campaign, Behavioral Health Care Services, Health and Human Resource Education

Center, Asian Mental Health Services, PEERS, Pool of Consumer Champions, BEST NOW

For more information visit www.alamedacounty10x10.org or call 1-855-AC10x10 (1-855-221-0910)